Doing for self v/s doing what others expect of you

We spend most of our time trying to mold ourselves into what others expect of us rather than how we want to be. Also this concept of being how others what us to behave is a bit screwed as we tend to believe what others think of us based on our perception. So it is actually a projected idea of what we assume others think of us rather than what they actually will be thinking about us. Also we overlook the idea that others may actually not be thinking about us at all and we may be, but a small minuscule aspect of their lives. And imagine we spend our entire lives thinking how others are going to say about us on our face or rather behind our backs. We actually assume that people are not honest to us in person but rather weave stories about us behind our backs. To come to think of it, so we think others have so much time to gossip about us. Or simply put, we live in a delusion of self grandiosity that the entire world is thinking about us and gossiping about us which is nothing but a delusion we live in and that preoccupies us so much so that we take that as our reality. Also another point to think about is that the image we think people have of us or even what we carry of others is nothing but a projection of our mind and talks about how we are or how we think. We live in a false sense of reality that separates us from our real self. That true reality in which we find our true joyous self, free of any judgments and comparisons. Think for a moment how would you like others to see you? Well that’s how we have to see others too.  And we got to do what we think we need to do rather than what we assume others want us to do. To put it in simple words, you are your own storyteller. So what story are you writing?